i want my ex-boyfriend back, how do i get him?
Posted by admin on Oct 9, 2008
first of all, we have been dating for a year and a few months. after our relationship hit one year, he began to be very controlling, so i told him that if he continued to act that way to me, I would leave him. he continued, and i left. We have been keeping in touch, and now, only three weeks later, I called him and told him that i loved him and want him back. After a long conversation, his answer was that he was working hard on something else (which before in the conversation he mentioned that he kissed this girl named chelsea) and that he thinks that they could be a good relationship. obviously i am hurt, but it was what he said after that, that really upset me. He said that we constantly argued and had nothing but bad times. and when i asked him to name me a bad time, it took him around 3 minutes to thinkof one thing, but when i asked him to think of the good times, he came up with like 5 things in about one minute. I know that it isnt true, and he does as well, but why would he say
something that he knows isnt true? i thought it was because he wanted to make himself feel better about what he was doing, and how he was moving on so fast after we had been together for so long. But i am really not sure. because when we were going out, i would talk to him about how we argued and such, and i asked him if he thought we argued a lot, and he said, "No, we argue like normal couples, and we get over it in like 10 seconds anyways." so with that i figure that we dont argue, and now he comes out with this. but anyways, the point of this question is, How do i get my ex back, (i dont want to hear just leave him alone, i know that is an option, but i want to know how to get him back)?
And if you can, why would he say that we had only bad times together, when he has said to me so many other times, that he loves being with me and i make him happy and we always have fun together?
make him jealous . it always works.
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When you talk…tell him your dating again and tell him about a guy your seeing thats really nice and so on ….make him jealous.
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Tell him how great his and promise hime sex
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eww i wouldnt want my ex back lol why do u want him back when he is controlling??? err girls these days they never learn u must b young rite
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if u really want him just tell him he's the best thing that ever happened tu u
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Look, something I realized a long time ago…. You guys are broken up for a reason.
When things end, it's best to move on. You have no idea how many oppurtunities you are probably missing by not just letting things go.
Change is a part of life. It's hard to move on, and it sucks, but really, if it didn't work once, chances are, it won't work again. It might at first, but something will go wrong. It's a fact.
If you don't just take it now, your going to be in a world of hurt later on, or caught up in something that could last years and damage your self esteem and trust for a very long time, making future relationships with people, yes, even friends, a lot more complicated.
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well maybe u guys just need a break from eachother date other people if u both love eachother then he will come back but girl dont go chasen him let him chase u
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make him jealous . it always works.
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Maybe he is just still a little skeptical about just back into a relationship with you since it got rocky at the end and maybe it hurt him when you left! Me and my fiance' have arguements and when he gets ill with me I just let him know that he can tlk to me about whatever it is that is bothering him! Make a special delivery to him one day! Get something he loves and surprise him! Small signs like that show that you care and even though they dont like to admit guys like to be shown how much they are loved too! Just make sure you do it when he is ALONE!
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That same stuff happend to me and my boyfriend! We kept in touch and hung out the two monthes we weren't dating and we ended up back together. All I did was give him space and started to open up to other people, like partying (not saying that you should start partying!!!) and once he heard that I was different he came running back to me! If you wanna talk I have AIM- FilthyGorgous21 or here's my myspace- http://www.myspace.com/amarisolbishop seriously if you wanna talk I'm here for you!!!
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he's just being a jerk because you left him. and he was probably only controlling you in the first place because he didn't want to lose you and thought he might. it could be a personality flaw, of course, but if he never exhibited it until a year after you started dating, i think it's more likely that he just got worried. also, try not to worry about this chelsea character, since your ex is probably just on the rebound after having a great relationship with you…he's just rediscovering what it's like to be single.
as for the saying you had nothing but bad times, it's classic justification…he didn't want to make himself feel worse about it because he probably felt crappy enough. so he focused on the bad and tried to decide that he prefers it this way. the key is if he really does decide that, or just attempts to. if he decides he's better off single, then nothing you can do will change his mind, but since he's still experimenting with single-ness, he's probably still within reach.
give him time, but don't give up and don't give him enough space to forget about you and how great your relationship was.
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When the history becomes the future.
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What makes you think he'll be less controlling this time around? What makes you think you'll argue less? Things might be good for three months tops if you do get him back - think seriously about what you want from the relationship, what you BOTH need to change to make it possible. Just tell him you want him back - be open and honest about it, but only if your both going to make changes to work on making things better for the both of you. Tell him what changes you think need to made to make things last, and if he isn't willing to work on them you just need to WALK AWAY. The fact that he responded initially with the fact that he was pursuing someone else is not a good indicator. My boyfriend and I had a big argument around 9 months into our relationship. We argued and cried all day about breaking up, and decided to give ourselves three months to make the changes to our relationship we wrote down that day. We've been together 18 months now and are stronger than ever. This is a make or break situation - if he isn't 100% keen to work out your relationship problems in the event you get back together, you need to leave and never look back.
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hope it helps and good luck : )
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